Here I am again writing anonymously while my wife sits watching TV in the next room. I feel guilty writing, but we just dont communicate anymore, and I need the outlet of open, unfiltered communication. I often look forward to writing, just to express myself without judgement. Am I wrong for doing this?
I appreciate both your responses to my issue. We have been married for over 43 years, and for the last 6-10 years, she just seems agree and has just carries on superficial conversations with me. I've gotten frustrated and have asked her if she wants to see a counselor or get a divorce, and is this why she keeps pushing me away.....but she always says no.
First, do I know how difficult it can be to communicate effectively with the spouse after several years of marriage (should it be easier, because there is more trust, but for some reason, it is not) Would I like to know if you have tried to know the recent interests that your wife has, to have topics of conversations or if she has done it with your interests? I want to know, because it happens to me with my husband. For example, I don't love sports, but I see the NBA and MLB games and reed sports news just to have any topic but we don't speak of anything. Every conversation is really a monologue, he doesn't answer me more than an "uh-huh" or "ok" , and I do not know what more to do. Sorry if I bothered you.
Hello there. Don't feel like you are doing nothing wrong, you're just letting out something that's in your head. Why don't you talk with her about it? If you really want your marriage to work, you'll need to comunicate with your partner.
this isn't wrong at all! you're allowed to have your own private thoughts and feelings. though, i feel like it might be a better choice to one day at least confront her about it because if you let this keep going it could get harder to fix