I'm not sexually attracted to my girlfriend at all. I'm a bisexual person, afab but don't use any gender labels and I think I'm mostly asexual. I've had sexual attraction with my previous partners but with her I don't experience it at all and it makes me uncomfortable when she hints anything sexual towards me. I've thought that it's maybe because she's more vanilla than me and insists I'm a top which would be okay if she had the same kinks as me but she doesn't. I still love her a lot regardless and that's why I'm together with her.
Thanks for your post. I'm interested in asexuality. When you say you feel uncomfortable when she makes advances towards you, how do you feel in the act with her. Is it just neutral which becomes annoying, or is it more negative than that in anyway?
I am genuinely interested in your perspective, I think in part because I am very sexual and want to know how and if I can understand someone very different from me.
Thanks agian.