I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. Not because I didn't love him, but because it didn't go anywhere. I am 8 years older than him, but age was not a factor. What was a factor was that in the 3 years we were together, he was not able to get a job. I know it was not exactly from lack of trying, but.. the relationship needs stability and assurance that we have the foundation to take the next step into marriage...
He's also sweet, and lovely, and he tries his best to spend time with me, even though we're 12 hours apart timezone wise. But when he gets into his moods and gets into arguments, it is impossible to get through to him, and he always spirals and assumes the worst of you. He would rather fan the flames of arguments instead of trying to resolve it.
And in spite of everything, perhaps I would be lying to myself if I said I didn't feel the tiniest bit of relief that the relationship is over. Because every argument drains the energy out of me. Every year that goes by makes me worried about the fact that the relationship isn't progressing. And because over time, I felt chained to the relationship I could no longer muster the energy to maintain.
Sorry, but how can you have a relationship with somebody that’s 12 time zones away have you actually even met this person? Sorry but this is probably for the better that relationship was never going to work based on everything you said and the fact that you were 12 time zones away!