I get bored when I don’t have a crush on someone. If there’s no one to obsessed over, my life feels pointless. There’s a certain high I get from longing for someone from afar. I spend hours on social media trying to find my crush’s accounts, attempting to piece together the perfect man in my head based off the information. I even save pictures in a folder on my phone.
Have you ever been able to actually try a relationship? How did it go?
I relate. I'm male, get bummed out with no female in my life to obsess over. When a woman shows interest I suddenly feel alive again, fantasizing, sexual energy flows, arousal.
Relationships have to be about mutual exchange, and you have to be able to provide for yourself. This isn't a healthy fantasy. No one person is gonna give all your life meaning. It isn't fair to expect that of them. If you do, your only source of energy becomes that person, and you wind up only able to take from them, with nothing to give. Your elevated expectations will be barrier to real connection, to accepting less-than-perfect and exploring what you really want by giving lots of different people a try.